In the Bible, it says that the end of the world will be Judgement Day in which the good will go to Heaven and the bad will be damned for all of eternity. I’m not a very religious person and I honestly find this idea of Catholicism’s Judgement Day kind of pathetic. In reality, Judgement Day is every day.
We are judged every day by the people around us. And it can get very tiring being anxious all the time. You’re always scared that if you do something or say something or post something or dress in a certain way or WRITE something, you’re going to be judged.
I personally really try to live my life by not caring about what other people may think of me. Especially in Gozo, this isn’t easy. It’s in the culture unfortunately. You have no idea how many looks I’ve gotten because of my #1 tattoo. And I know that those people are judging me and thinking, “Damn, does this girl think she’s some God?” If you knew me, you’d most certainly know that I do not think I’m a God or that I’m better than anyone else. My tattoo is the exact opposite of anything prideful. My tattoo means that I am #1 for MYSELF and that I am the most important person in my life and I need to take care of myself. It’s all about self-care and self-love. Yet of course, people don’t care to ask what it means! They’d rather just judge and snicker. This scenario can be applied to anything.
Thank God I am surrounded by good people who I can trust and are genuine. And yet, a rotten apple occasionally happens to fall from the tree. What I most definitely cannot tolerate is people acting a certain way in front of me and then talking badly behind my back. That’s called double standards. I cannot tolerate fake smiles and praise when reality is the complete opposite. I must mention that these judgements do not necessarily have to be by the general public but also by closest family.
I know that this is a harsh topic to discuss on my blog however I felt the need to express my views on judging. I honestly don’t know how people take pleasure in judging other people and degrading them. I don’t understand how someone can judge another without getting to know them. It’s simply biased prejudgment. It’s so toxic and arrogant. Just because someone is different to you doesn’t mean you cannot take the time to understand them.
When I wrote the first draft of this post, I went a bit overboard saying DAMN YOU! I think my reasoning was out of balance because I think anyone has the opportunity to change their perspective if only they are open to such change. I think that just like baseball, everyone has three strikes until they’re out and I’m willing to give anyone those three chances because they deserve it. We’re all human at the end of the day. Unlike Catholicism, I think that the damned can be saved too.
For everyone reading this, there’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with who you are and what you’re doing. Live your life the way you want to. You’ve only got this one precious life and time is ticking. Live this life by your principles. The most satisfying life is a life lead by yourself in which you’re doing what you love and simply being happy by your own standards. Take advantage that you can liberate yourself from the judgement of others. Prosper and don’t let judgement day affect your every day.