Yes, the word “adulting” actually exists – I didn’t make it up.
There’s a lot of things I don’t like and “adulting” is definitely one of them.
Simple Day-To-Day Shit
Being an adult means you have to take care of yourself for every little thing.
And it’s not just basic stuff like grocery-shopping or driving yourself to work in the morning or paying the rent.
Rather, it’s things like going to the seamstress to fix a dress, getting the fan out of the garage cause otherwise no one else will get it for you, organizing your shelf in the fridge every week or so, driving to Birzebbugia to buy shelves for your (pretty) books, going to GO to cancel the internet contract, moving apartments (me and my poor car in the heat)… the list could go on.
Suddenly, when you’re an adult, you have to do EVERY little thing for yourself.
It’s that phrase “have to” which is frustrating because if you don’t do these simple tasks, they otherwise won’t get done. And it’s exhausting af.
And I hate errands. I hate that they all build up and I have to do these small things every Saturday morning which actually take up a lot of your time and make you feel really tired afterwards.
When you’re still a teenager, you’ve got the excuse that you’re a student and that you’re young, so your parents do everything for you. They’ll drive you around, they’ll take your shoes to the tailor if they need fixing, they’ll pay for everything, and cook all your meals. You have no responsibility to yourself whatsoever.
Yeah, that dies when you become an adult.
(I know I’m ranting but I’m getting to my point in a bit)
Coming Of Age
We’ve all read “coming of age” novels like The Perks of Being A Wallflower and when you’re young, you’re constantly transitioning into becoming an adult – you’re still figuring out a lot of shit. And it sucks.
It sucks that you’ve got to figure it out all on your own while still dealing with life. It can be an overwhelming and confusing time. No one prepares you for that.
And while you’re in the process of understanding yourself and what you want in life, you’ve still got to face everyday life.
Yet, that’s life. And it doesn’t get easier. But the older you get, the more you learn how to deal with it better. That’s something only you can learn to do: dealing with life.
If life were easy, it wouldn’t be worth living.
And although this “coming of age” phase may be annoying, it’s part of the process and we’re all going through it.
The process isn’t always fun but that only means something better is yet to come. We all get there – at own our pace.
I read this quote online that resonated with me, and it goes: “the time is always perfect. You might hate it, you don’t have to like it, but when you look back, you will understand.”